The journey towards self-love involves learning to meet, accept and open to the being that you are.
Genuine self-love is not possible as long as you are resisting, judging or trying to control what you experience. Thinking 'I should be having a better experience than this one' or 'I'm not good enough' does not let yourself be as you are.
The way to free yourself from shame and self-blame is through developing a more friendly relationship with your experience, your pain, your feelings.
Actively meet, engage and open to what you're feeling. Consciously touching a feeling and saying yes to it frees you from its grip. Your openness is much bigger and stronger than the feelings themselves. If you can let your experience happen, it will release its knots and unfold, leading to a deeper, more grounded experience of yourself. Your willingness to engage and be present draws forth your essential strength, leading in a more life-positive direction.
How can you make friends with your feelings, just as they are in this moment, no matter how difficult they may be? The key is to always start right here, where you are, wherever that is.